I am going to try to answer in the order of your questions, but first thing you need to realize in bidding on bidding on foreclosures is that the bank is not going to let it go for much less than what is owed them unless there are some major problems. Everyone kind of misses the logic that most foreclosures are not on low loan to values. Most people, especially in this market, are not losing $500k properties that they only owe $250k on; they are letting go of a $500k mortgage on a house that is now worth $400k. The mortgage company prevents selling at loss by buying the property themselves at the auction and their agents are going to up the bidding to the outstanding loan balance so, even if you and your fiance are the only people bidding, the mortgage company is going to keep bidding until they hit the outstanding balance. Once they hit that, if someone is wiling to bid
above them, then it is a win-win situation to them.
1. While I never advocate co-buying a property unless you are actually married, if you feel/know with a 100% that the wedding will take place in a couple of months, as long as you both have good credit and minimal debt, it is to your benefit to be able to use both income sources. You will have to do a Tenants In Common deed instead of a Tenants in the Entirety with rights of survivorship but you can easily and cheaply change the deed to T by E after the wedding (mortgage companies do not care about this and will not even get involved when notified of the requested change by the court)
2. The realtor is more interested in selling a home on the open market because it is easier and more profitable for the realtor.
3. See my above explanation. If you know that the outstanding mortgage is lower, than go for a low ball but I would be surprised if the outstanding LTV is under 90%
4. You can both bid but you will be competing against each other so it doesn't make much sense. Place your offer based on what you honestly think the property is worth and for what you are willing to pay. People ( like most of the people underwater today) let emotion and hype override common sense and they end up offering to pay more than property is worth in order to win.
5. It will depend how close you are to their desired amount. Most decent lenders are not going to flat out reject a buyer willing to pay $200k on the property that they wanted $205k for but they won't bother with countering deals that they believe are so much lower than what they need to get
because experience tells them you are not going to immediately agree to their counter offer of $205k if you only bid $185k.
6. Best advice, figure out the value of the property and that includes any damages that you would have to pay for (and you would not believe what people who are being foreclosed on will do to a home-flush things down the toilets to back up the pipes, gash hardwood floors, I saw one where the people systematically cracked most of the ceramic tile in the kitchen so that each tile would have to be replaced). On the positive side, lender will let go a lot cheaper a property that they would have
to do expensive repairs. No such thing as a DIY lender but many DIY homeowners can make the necessary repairs themselves for a significant cost savings that the lender, who has to pay a professional time and material, cannot do.
If the property is in perfect (documented) condition and you find out the value of the comps, go maybe 5% under that.
EDIT- I did not know it was a HUD foreclosure and I agree with realtor on the items about the bidding process